Tag Archives: Choice

Pushing Through

That moment when you realize that you are really an adult might just have something to do with motivating yourself to do an unpleasant task.  We think of being an adult as finally getting to do all of the things that we were prevented from doing as kids.  If I thought at all about all of the things that require prompting to do, I assumed that adults didn’t need that external push.  I found out soon enough that I was wrong.

This topic is coming to mind because I’ve had to make myself write this post.  Bleh.  Normally I love to write, but it just isn’t there right now and I don’t have a safety post ready this week.  Nothing I could think of countered the obstinate little pouty kid who shouted ‘you can’t make me’ over and over in my head when I tried to think of post topics.

My sister used to have a friend who went to the trouble to run the vacuum throughout the house without turning it on in an act of defiant compliance.  Even as a kid I thought that defied logic – if you are going to go to the trouble to run it over the carpet, how hard is it to turn it on?  But I also get the defiance, the dig your heels in contrariness of the act.

Archival Stock WWII Footage

Archival Stock WWII Footage

Sometimes even as adults we need to have someone else make us do something – hence the need for many laws – things that will give us great benefit like eating healthy, saving for retirement, getting our teeth cleaned.  And plenty of tasks at work.

There must be a solid evolutionary reason why we are so obstreperous at times.  I have found myself splitting into two minds – one is being terribly unruly and the other is consternated not only by the childish stand but also by the choice of the fit.  Why-ever have I chosen to cling to this particular cliff?

There is plenty about job search that brings out that ‘you can’t make me’ feeling, isn’t there?  And what’s worse, there really isn’t someone in authority, like a boss, to push you past that feeling.  Oh, plenty of people to nag at you, but that isn’t the same.  Deadlines are mostly self-imposed, as are most tasks.  If self-motivation is flagging or absent trouble can build pretty quickly.

How about you, what prompts do you use, positive or negative, when you’ve dug your heels in?

Beth Anne Reed has a background in Customer Relations, Process & Project Management and a deep interest in Written Communications.

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Temporary Shelters – Part I

By Cynthia Simmons

Sometimes life places you in unexpected situations. Like sudden unemployment. Or perhaps the change is a long-anticipated loss of work while your job is sent to another state or out of the country.

You may feel truly shipwrecked. Tossed up upon a foreign shore. (Or rather, your former job is on one shore and you are on another. My story.)


My advice in those situations is to build a temporary shelter. To create a support structure and a schedule that will get you through the weeks and months while you re-group, re-consider, and re-launch yourself back out into the working world. You will need a “base camp” from which you can venture out. Your first goal in unemployment is to create that base camp, so that you can begin to operate from a place of strength.

For the foundation, you need to recognize that life has provided yet another rather significant challenge. To be angry and upset, and all the rest of the tempestuous emotions that survival instincts send streaming through our bodies to deal with adversity.

After the surges of adrenaline, shock, horror, grief, and loss, come sadness and perhaps regret. Why? How?Imagem0317

OK, when the grieving is less awful, you can begin to build that temporary shelter. The strength in that shelter may be dreams revisited. The possible imaginings of who you once wanted to be. What you wanted to accomplish. What you had felt was your life’s work.

Perhaps now motives and goals are simpler? More to the point? Less adorned?

More easily achieved?

Cynthia Simmons is a publishing and communications professional.
Photos credited to the morgueFile.com
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This past Monday was Memorial Day. I decided, on that morning, to make the hour-long drive with my wife back to the suburb where I lived for 21 of the first 25 years of my life.


This was a choice of mine, and here is the reason.


Two years ago, we made that same drive, and it was then that I realized how much the park where they have their local Memorial Day festivities had changed since the time that I lived there. For example, back then, there was only 1 Little League baseball field, with a huge open space next to it. Now there are 2 somewhat larger Little League fields. The original concession stand was torn down, and sometime around the year 2007 or 2008, and new concession stand was built closer to the baseball fields. They chose to name it the “Home Plate Grill”. Just outside the “Home Plate Grill”, the suburb had a small monument erected and dedicated, in 2011, to those servicemen who had lived in the town and had served in our country’s military, along with the wars that they served in.




When I saw that monument in 2012, I thought that the names on the monument were of only those servicemen who did not return from the war that they fought in. I later learned that this was not the case. Since my father was in the navy and had served in the Pacific Theater of World War II, I thought that his name might be on that monument. It wasn’t, but I found out from a member of the Veterans of Foreign Wars that names can be added; however, this monument gets updated only once every 10 years.


The monument honors those who made the choice to serve our country.


In job-searching, just as in our everyday lives, we make choices. Some of the choices that we make turn out for the better, some don’t.


Memorial Day, 2014, has come and gone. I hope that, in future Memorial Days, we continue to choose to remember those who made that choice to serve our country, especially those who made the ultimate sacrifice, so that we can freely make more choices.



Dave Vandermey is a web developer.

How Did You Pick?

Sometimes we know early in life, sometimes we try one thing and then another to finally land on the thing that fits best, or sometimes we just fall into something and make it work.  The choice of our profession, that is.  What we become when we grow up, the answer to that question that adults like to ask children when they don’t know what else to say.


There are tests that are given in school to measure aptitude like math, science, reasoning, or reading skills.  These are meant to help us to narrow our options.  Or perhaps your family gives the world doctors, teachers, farmers, or lawyers.


Now that you find yourself in job search are you sticking with your originally chosen professional path, or has this change in circumstance made you reevaluate?  Many of the people that I have met in the past year have decided this is a good time to revisit the question of what to be – professionally that is.  It seems like a valid response.


Sometimes it makes great sense, particularly if you were downsized because the business segment that you were in is in decline.  Picking something new, possibly similar in a growth area will help your chances.  Or maybe the job that you know is no longer the job that sparks your interest.  Again, it makes sense to rethink your other options.


Me, I picked my path based on the broadest opportunity to support myself and my boys after my divorce.  And it turned out to be a very interesting and varied job which suited me.   I can do lots of different versions of this type of job for plenty of time to come.


Your turn, how did you pick?  Do you pick it again?


Beth Anne Reed has a background in Customer Relations, Process & Project Management and a deep interest in Written Communications.

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