That moment when you realize that you are really an adult might just have something to do with motivating yourself to do an unpleasant task. We think of being an adult as finally getting to do all of the things that we were prevented from doing as kids. If I thought at all about all of the things that require prompting to do, I assumed that adults didn’t need that external push. I found out soon enough that I was wrong.
This topic is coming to mind because I’ve had to make myself write this post. Bleh. Normally I love to write, but it just isn’t there right now and I don’t have a safety post ready this week. Nothing I could think of countered the obstinate little pouty kid who shouted ‘you can’t make me’ over and over in my head when I tried to think of post topics.
My sister used to have a friend who went to the trouble to run the vacuum throughout the house without turning it on in an act of defiant compliance. Even as a kid I thought that defied logic – if you are going to go to the trouble to run it over the carpet, how hard is it to turn it on? But I also get the defiance, the dig your heels in contrariness of the act.
Sometimes even as adults we need to have someone else make us do something – hence the need for many laws – things that will give us great benefit like eating healthy, saving for retirement, getting our teeth cleaned. And plenty of tasks at work.
There must be a solid evolutionary reason why we are so obstreperous at times. I have found myself splitting into two minds – one is being terribly unruly and the other is consternated not only by the childish stand but also by the choice of the fit. Why-ever have I chosen to cling to this particular cliff?
There is plenty about job search that brings out that ‘you can’t make me’ feeling, isn’t there? And what’s worse, there really isn’t someone in authority, like a boss, to push you past that feeling. Oh, plenty of people to nag at you, but that isn’t the same. Deadlines are mostly self-imposed, as are most tasks. If self-motivation is flagging or absent trouble can build pretty quickly.
How about you, what prompts do you use, positive or negative, when you’ve dug your heels in?
Beth Anne Reed has a background in Customer Relations, Process & Project Management and a deep interest in Written Communications.
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